20 ways of looking at mediation with the author

nb this afternoon i dreamed i fell down a cliff 

while running from a dog 

1   i am blaming her 

2   she is blaming me 

3   neither is at fault 

4   both are at fault 

5   it'll be seen as a resumption of the friendship 

6   its beyond reconciliation 

7   its because we lost our support workers 

8   political / cultural factors 

9   don't visit the past create a new future 

10  the mediation could happen more informally 
as and when we coincide 

11 the mediation could be done formally where we can 
really get down to business 

12 she will see it as an apology 

13 she might see it as me taking control 

14 it mgith come across as inconsistant 

15 it could be inconsistent from a legal point of view 

16 she might see it as a sexual advance 

17 it would mean alot more to her than to me 

18 she tends to be under responsible 

19 i tend to be over responsible 

20 is that really true it depends 
what you mean by responsibility 

21 we are trying to discredit each other 

22 she could say the sexual idea was mine 

23 doing it informally might better preserve the boundaries 

24 we find each other intimidating 

25 an Irish / English thing about being aloof 
and getting riled and losing your cool 

26 im concerned about inviting her to a mediation 
exercise i can't cope with 

27 this has been my experience that i shut down 
around her 

28 you wont necessarily get it 
how you want it 

29 street bureaucrat ( Matthew ) 

30 if it goes wrong it'll go badly wrong 

31 if I'm not well i will just shut down 
and not be able to cope with it 

32 i would have initiated it 


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33 i explored some sexual feelings about her 
after i terminated the friendship 

34 n decided i didn't want them